Black women’s impossible dilemma: How this world ties our “safety” to the protection of our abusers
The world has an appetite for our pain, and this is what I refuse. This is why I will never again decide to protect someone who harms me.
How “Gayle King v. Kobe Bryant” obscured a valid critique of sensationalizing sexual violence
In our efforts to resist this silencing, however, we must also consider the ways that others who are not public figures are implicated in these discussions
Ayanna Pressley sees power in being a sexual violence survivor, & there’s science to that
For those of us survivors whose bodies revolt, it’s not just that we are experiencing random medicalized dysfunctions. We are reacting to the toxicity surrounding us.
We protect us: Why the state will never solve the epidemic of missing and trafficked Black women & girls
State institutions such as the police, and child welfare services are often complicit in sexual violence enacted upon Black women and girls.
Why we need Black doulas to build Black futures
Because doulas as a whole, are not part of the healthcare system, we are the most unbiased birth experts in the labor room.
Embracing ugly in a world that’s tried to weaponize it against me
The impact of being uglified has real, painful, and pervasive consequences.
How I found empowerment among Black strippers in an industry that forces us to compete
All of the information that was useful to me came from the Black and non-white strippers I knew, women who the industry set up to be in competition with me.
Men of color are creating their own manospheres, & their misogynistic violence is going ignored
If most male supremacists are concerned about the declining status of white men, men of color want to establish a dominance that society never bequeathed to them.
“Children do not deserve privacy,” and other abusive myths masked as good parenting
Children who are taught that they don’t deserve privacy are in a perpetual cycle of apologizing for receiving it and/or being fearful that it will be rescinded.
“He didn’t have to hit her tho”: The ‘Beale Street’ slap scene & loving Black women who hurt us
How do so many Black women love violent Black men without reciprocating violence themselves, but can't get that love in return? How do we normalize care strategies for Black women who hurt us?
