Zaddy issues: On dating older Black men & being polyamorous
My experiences with dating older Black men have taught me that though some of their actions are inappropriate, they’re often misplaced reactions to the world we live in.
At 20, Lil Nas X is still a child. Why do older adults keep sexualizing him?
Yes, 18 is the legal threshold from childhood to adulthood, but legality has never been something that applied “equally" to Black children, especially Black Queer children.
Why Black people need to explore intimacy within our friendships & non-sexual relationships
White supremacy and cis-heteropatriarchy encourage us to have selective distributions of intimacy, touch and care that are reserved specifically for our sexual partners and family members.
Looking for the dirt in ‘Dirty Computer’: Why Janelle Monae’s latest isn’t her ‘most radical & queer’
By Vernon Jordan, III I remember a time when I knew who I was, and knew who I wanted to be, without having the verbal language for it. I was three, four and five, trying to Moonwalk along with Michael…
What I learned by talking to f*ck boys about discussing butt sex with my mom
By Rumi “It’s not natural,” she said. “Your father would be mortified,” she said. If asked, very few niggas would probably say that talking to their moms about anal sex constitutes the “good life,” but it’s one of those things…
Black and Bullied: How This Sex Positive Blerd Unlearned Her Anti-Blackness
By Arielle Iniko Newton I wasn’t the cool kid. I was bullied during my adolescent years for reasons that seem mundane and trivial in my adult life. My lack of social acumen paired with my sexual proclivities meant that I…
Bondage theology and how to heal the body trauma of Black folks.
In an unhealed state, inflicting pain is the only way we know divinity.
Whom We Decide To Lay With And Love Is Political: An Interview With “No Fats, No Femmes” Director Jamal T. Lewis.
What does it mean to be "attracted” to someone? What does it mean to find a person desirable? With whom do we want to have sex and why? How do we know a person is beautiful? Are our attractions unchangeable and…
Choosing Queer: I Was Not Born This Way, And That’s Ok.
By Hari Ziyad I don’t remember the first time I found a boy attractive. I do know that in my earliest memories, when I was 4 or 5, this attraction felt natural and innate. I know, too, that there was…
Brother To Brother: Kindling A Fire That Heals
*This is the second part of an 4 part series of letters between Tabias Wilson of Blaqueerflow and I. To read Tabias' letter to which this was a response, please scroll to the bottom of the page* Tabias, It's so great…
